It was been 5 years plus since we have dated and I feel that this could be it. The proposal! So, as usual, I have been thinking of all the things, ROM, Wedding, Flats etc... And of course on her side she will do her own reading of wedding magazines, looking for flats and sharing with me her thoughts of the wedding.
So, since both of us are on the topic of the first step which is the ROM, I thought it will be wonderful if my mum were to witness the ceremony with my loved ones right. (Btw, my mum suffered a brain stroke a couple of years ago and she is currently bed bound in a nursing home). And I mentioned to Rachel on this and suggested 2 options on how are we going to do it.
So, since both of us are on the topic of the first step which is the ROM, I thought it will be wonderful if my mum were to witness the ceremony with my loved ones right. (Btw, my mum suffered a brain stroke a couple of years ago and she is currently bed bound in a nursing home). And I mentioned to Rachel on this and suggested 2 options on how are we going to do it.
1) We will hold the ROM ceremony at the nursing home that my mum is staying. First, she will have immediate medical attention (if necessary) and she will get to witness the wedding ceremony with my family members and my in-laws.
My thoughts on Option 1: I want the ROM ceremony must be a 'closed' door event. As I do not like the idea of having so many pples to see my mum's current state. Call me selfish but I just want to protect mum's image to other pples.
2) Have the ROM ceremony hold in a hotel / event hall where everyone (aunts, uncles, parents, in laws) to witness the ceremony and Rachel and I will visit mum after the whole ceremony ends and subsequently have a video clip of the ceremony to show her.
My thoughts on Option 2: Of course, this option will be good for 2 parties, however, my mum will not be there to witness the event. As much as I want her to attend, it will be difficult for her to be on wheel-chair throughout the whole ceremony. *sigh*
After telling her the 2 options, Rachel told me that she will come out with an answer.... So, 2 days has past and we were just talking about the ceremony and I decided to ask her for the results.
My thoughts on Option 1: I want the ROM ceremony must be a 'closed' door event. As I do not like the idea of having so many pples to see my mum's current state. Call me selfish but I just want to protect mum's image to other pples.
2) Have the ROM ceremony hold in a hotel / event hall where everyone (aunts, uncles, parents, in laws) to witness the ceremony and Rachel and I will visit mum after the whole ceremony ends and subsequently have a video clip of the ceremony to show her.
My thoughts on Option 2: Of course, this option will be good for 2 parties, however, my mum will not be there to witness the event. As much as I want her to attend, it will be difficult for her to be on wheel-chair throughout the whole ceremony. *sigh*
After telling her the 2 options, Rachel told me that she will come out with an answer.... So, 2 days has past and we were just talking about the ceremony and I decided to ask her for the results.
To my dismay, her answer is to have option 2 without my mum presence. Honestly speaking, I was shocked by her decision. From there on, my usual imagination went wild... isit because she don't like my mum? ashamed about my mum's condition or otherwise.... I really do not know...
Well, this event happened on a sat 27 Feb. And its has been 2 days w/o us talking.
Well, this event happened on a sat 27 Feb. And its has been 2 days w/o us talking.
*Gawd* What should i do?
